No ‘Gudiya’ after a ‘Pudiya’
In India, festival fever is in-the-air. After pleasing our ancestors, we recently celebrated ‘Navratras’. Many of us queued up the temples; stayed grainless for days; did every sort of religious stuff and searched for ‘little girls’ to be worshiped (‘Kanya Poojan’) in order to complete this many-days-long ritual.
Because of prevailing ‘Girls paucity’, booking starts beforehand. Ironically, we never mind standing and waiting for hours in the streets for little girls, for a proclaimed worship but not many of us want to hear, ‘it’s a girl!’, while waiting outside the delivery room. Why this double standard?
I remember, when my daughter was born, many visitors were awfully grief-bound as I had to go through a ‘Caesarean’, and that too ‘for a girl!’It bemused me, more because such remarks came from ‘women’ themselves!
Nature itself has chosen ‘woman,’ as the life bearer. Only she can procreate. In simple words, without a ‘She’, there can be no ‘He’. But does ‘The Society,’ acknowledge this indispensable role of ‘her’ or even her existence?
We live in such a society where you don’t have to do any research to answer this question. There are countless incidents on regular basis where woman is denied of her basic rights and is treated with bias. A country where a girl is supposed to be form of Goddess, crimes against her have reached their zenith. Some are shushed even before they can make their first sound. Many, who escape, are subjected to every possible mistreatment such as child-abuse, eve-teasing, honour- killing, dowry, domestic-violence, etc. Who is to be blamed? Humanity is moving to its ugliest nadir.
Last year was a happening year in our country’s history as many initiatives were taken to safeguard the well-being of a ‘She’. Most advertised and adopted was, “Beti Bachao, Beti Parao” (Save and Educate a Girl Child). Every nook and corner was buzzing with related activities.
I was awestruck, “What time is it when someone else has to tell you not to kill your own unborn baby. Don’t you have enough heart and able mind, not to do it?
The longing for boys is so deep-rooted in their psyche that people don’t feel ashamed to go to any extent (sometimes unbelievable). When I was expecting, some elderly women would forecast the sex of the unborn child. One of them once asked, “Did you take the medicine?
My answer was ‘Yes’, as was properly following the meds prescribed by the physician.
“Bet, it’s a boy then! Even your body language tells that”.
I was thinking about the connection between the medicines and sex of my un-born child!
On discovering what kind of medicine was being talked about, I was astonished and the ladies continued, “Everyone takes them and it’s a sure thing.”
I was literally laughing inside, “If making boys”, is such an easy job, what are our medical scientists on Earth doing? They should stop researching in the lab, instead start searching these sure ‘sex-determiners’, as soon as possible.
Jokes apart, it’s a bitter truth, women (sometime educated too) go to such self-styled docs (willingly or forcibly) who give them some sort of ‘Pudiya’ (Packet) and after nine months… “It’s a baby boy!” (As told).
So finally, you know the ‘geniuses’ behind the declining ‘female-ratio’ in some parts of our country! Work is already in progress to make our country ‘smoke-free’, ‘plastic-free’, ‘porn-free’, and ‘pollution-free’. Who knows, may be some day, with such a mind-set, we will succeed in achieving the target of making entire region ‘girls-free’? – “No kidding!”
Posted on November 21, 2015, in Empowerment, Humour, Parenting and tagged Beti Bachao Beti Padhao, Declining Female ratio, Domestic violence, Dowry, Education, Eve-teasing, Female foeticide, Goddess worship, Honour killing, Navaratras India, Religion, Save Girl Child. Bookmark the permalink. 22 Comments.