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You can’t Rest Mommy!

GLOWINGAL Aka SNOW dozed off while watching her favourite cartoon show; she must be tired of all day work and play!😴😴

For a second, the exhausted mom also thought of a quick nap but she left the idea, and looked for the school bag instead.

Left over food! Whole lot of homework! When would she do it ?😯😯

Letting her sleep for some time, mommy rushed to the kitchen to do the due, and proudly announced ‘its dinner time’ to… apparently no one; Princess was happy in her dreamland. ‘Eat alone’ was the only option!🙇🙇🙇

Baffled Mum indulged herself in TV. Finally, at 11 pm the hunger pangs in tiny tummy pleaded for a refill. Mom happily put grains in a sleepy mouth spoon by spoon. The tum got full and the monster was awakened. 👻👻👻

Mother needed to rest; tomorrow again it’s a working day. She put off light with thousand questions from the tiny tot and countless worries in her mind…😱😱😱

The home work! 😵😵

We have to get up early. 

The uniform! Is it tidy enough to be worn one more day? 

What am I gonna give her in her tiffin? 

I should have washed the other uniform as well? 

Have I bolted all doors? The lights, the gas?

Have I paid all the bills? 

Oh I didn’t prepare for tomorrow’s lecture! 

What am I going to wear tomorrow? Which bag? Which shoes?

I hope the maid comes on time!

And in the mean time she sleeps…

Only to wake up with a jerk.

What time is it? Oh time to leave this coziness. Looking at the clock, Is there any harm in snoozing for five minutes? 

Wake up…wake up mommy! An inner voice says, and there she was…running a daily sprint.

Rush…run…catch the van…run… get ready…rush…run…run….

No time to rest mommy!🏃🏃

What Is In The Name?

Many of us, at some stage of our life, curse our parents for giving us the ‘Name’ that we have, especially during teenage we are much concious about it. We always believe that it could have been better had they thought a little more…atleast better than this!!!!

We keep chewing the cud, and one day we realise that this is what it is and we have to live with it. Ofcourse many people go to the extent of changing their names as well. Brave ears!!! I just wonder how they respond to their old names once they switch!!!!
Anyways it’s their Problem! I already have made peace with my name. 😐😐

Then  what encouraged this write up?

Here’s the thing.How do you respond when your four something gal comes to you and says,”Mamma, Please change my name! I don’t like it.

What are you supposed to do?

I mean we took a lot of time…thinking…discussions…and then on the pious occasion of Diwali, she was named after Goddess Laxmi (the goddess tending money 🤓)…oh don’t think otherwise, we in India actually worship this Goddess on the festival of light, Diwali, and moreover, her grandparents announced her arrival to this world as ‘Laxmi aayehe he…’Laxmi has arrived’. So how can she just not like it???

 There is lot of hard work, devotion and emotions after naming her, and now she is not liking it!!!😮😮😮

Anyway, just to keep her calm, I said,”then by what name would you like to be known, sweetheart?”

“How is Rupenzel?” She immediately said as if waiting desperately for this.

“Nooo! But she had loooooong hair. Look at yours, hardly coming in a rubberband!” I discouraged the suggestion.😋😋

“Then Cinderella?” She got little nervous.

Poor kid. Can’t think outside her imaginary world.

“No, How am I gonna call you? It doesn’t go well on my tongue,” I again rejected the plea. (Gosh, I am a bad mom😥😥)

“It is so tough mommy! What name should I choose?” She got sad.

“Think…there are more heroines in your fairy tales,” I said to cheer her up.

“Decided, my new name is going to be ‘Snow-white’! You like it ma?”

Munching on to the biscuit, I said, “Okay! But I’ll call you Snow. Is that fine?”

“Yes mamma! Snow white…Snow,” She said smilingly, “Now let’s find a new name for you too.

“No, I am cool beta!” I took another bite from the cookie.

“What’s the name of the biscuit that you are eating?” (Children are weird, they ask random questions 😏😏)

“It’s Marie Light!” I flipped the pack to show her.

“Wow! Mamma, Daughter, Snow-white, and Mother, Marie Light!!! How’s that? Isn’t your new name awesome? She was happy, So I could not object.

 I only said,”But call me Marie haan!“😍😍

So people, as you see, unofficially…our names have been changed. Mann is Marie and her Glowingal…she is Snow.😁😁😁😁😁

Pissed off

You think you are doing great as mother!!!


Oh…Think again.

There are people who can bring you down any time of the day.

They just have to say, “For their kids, mothers do this, mothers do that and what not!”

In short according to them, these hypothetical mothers do those very little things ‘you don’t’!!!

And you are like, “What about the things  I do???? Why don’t you ever notice that????”

Why people keep judging you for things which are none of their business?

I mean, come on!!! 

Mother is ‘real’, not some copy paste command!!!

Leave her alone for God sake!!!

Give her a break!!!!!

Whose Mommy Smartest????

Mom or supermom, That’s the question!!!!

Ever been part of this competition which is going on in the modern world?
Every woman is in a race to present herself as the best possible mother to her kids which is good thing; kids are getting enormous attention as a bonus 😜😜 but do you ever think how stressful it is for mothers?????😨😨No you don’t!!! You just air the ideas and get doting mothers to business! 🙅🙅🙅

There was an invitation rather obligation from Glowingal’s new School for a mandatory appearance on the occasion of Mother’s day precelebration. Not just a common appearance; mothers were expected to show some swag 👸 if not gifted with a talent or so!!!

Thoughtfully I chose first; it’s easy for me.😊😊But it became rather complex; they needed two swaggers (👭) together in similar attire even the colour should match, and option was limited to INDIAN ONLY. What is this?

Anyways we managed it and walked on the ramp…hand in hand and with our charisma, won many hearts. 💞💞

Proudly we made our position in top five finalist as well. No wonder this mother would have won the ‘race’ for smartest mother, had my pretty pink partner remained stuck to her choices!!!

Oh…poor mommy was surprised to see that her daughter’s favourite colour had changed to yellow from pink (I mean since when???), and ShinChen replaced Doreman as her preferred cartoon character!!!!😱😱😱

I knew I was going to loose it…the race…to be the smartest mom!!!! 👹👹

Do I feel bad???

Yes I do!!!🙇🙇

Not for the title you swift minds, but the gift pack which the winner received…And nobody’ll ever know,’what was inside!’😢😢

Oh…Jokes apart…I didn’t feel bad at all. I am friends with failure. 😏😏

Yeah, it’s good to be competitive and get our heads into such events once in a while but should we depend upon others for telling us, ‘How good we are as mothers or as humans for that matter?’

Motherhood is a beautiful, demanding, and unique journey for each one of us…we make mistakes…we stumble…we learn…we become better…and then we make new mistakes…learning a new lesson everytime. That’s how it goes as per my experience and I believe, it’s the truest tale of all.

I don’t think any mother can be perfect (no offence…every mother’s love is PERFECT, without any question)!

Though she is always looking for ways to be perfect…tirelessly and trust me…there are many… undiscovered, unused ways…🤔🤔

So Mommies! Keep looking…keep improving and keep loving cause that’s what mothering is all about…

And yay…I am needed somewhere!!! Let me go and clean all the makeup mess that Glowingal just created; She looks horrible with all the smudged eye makeup!!!!😲😲😲
Happy Mothering all!😊😊😊

It Takes Two To Tango


Well it’s never easy to win with kids,try it…they make a scene so horrible…😨😨
And  also it’s not an easy thing to accept defeat at their hands… 😭😭

that’s why fine parenting is not everyone’s cup of tea.

You either lose your cool 😫😫 or there are chances that you’ll lose interest 😩😩

Then there are situations when kids put you in awkward situations in front of people…

My Glowingal is a huge dance enthusiast.Trying to be a considerate mom, I searched a dance school in this new place. After working all the details, I told mom-in-law to drop her to dance class as I had some work engagements.

But eventually I ended up picking her up early cause princess didn’t even enter the class!!!

why don’t kids respect  their parents’ decisions??? 🤔🤔Oh, she is too little for that!!!

When I asked the reason she said,” who teachs dance like this mamma? I don’t like it. I’ll never go there.”

Ahaan!!! There you go.

Less than 5 years of existence and this tiny girl uses her right to say NO better than me!🤔🤔

and dare to turn it to YES! I BETTER NOT!😁😁😁 especially in a public place!!!

I sensed the mood, held her hand and walked home. On the way tried various mother tricks to know the root cause, and voila! I found it.😮😮

“Why this school is so far Ma? I can’t walk! I get tired,” She complained with the sweetest face in the world.

My Waxy heart melted.

“I see. Is that the reason for your refusal?”

“Yes.please send me somewhere near…”

“Okay! Why not sweetie!”

And she went to the same dance school next day.🤓🤓

PS. She managed to sit there for one complete hour. I won’t let my hard work go waste. 😌😌 However it’ll take some more days to see my monkey actually jumping. I am in no hurry…this mom has tons of patience…and I am still growing it 🙋🙋

She Is Under The Spell Of Mom’s Magic Wand

These days, I am having a whole lot of ‘our time’ with my Glowingal 😇😇 and undenyingly, I am much in a ‘habit-correcting’ mode right now 🤓🤓. (What???? Don’t give mo those looks!!! Mom will always be mom 😊😊😊).
For a long time I have been using a trick to deal with my overly naugthy kid who obviously is very sensitive also. Whenever I want her to do something and she seems adamant, I simply utter,

“Do it to a count of five or…” and then I just start counting…one…two…three…

By the time I reach four she is like I am doing it mamma…and before I say five…she jumps, “I have done it!”💃💃

And I am like wow! I NEVER THOUGHT COUNTING IS SUCH A MARVELLOUS TOOL!!!🙆🙆

However I am equally amazed as to what actually she thinks, would happen after FIVE????

Anyways, I am not exploring right now…this tool is like a magic wand; very handy and harmless. Atleast a mother can catch a breath while the spell is on…

And…Let’s not think about the day when she won’t  even move after hearing FIVE…cause even I don’t know what after that!!!!!😁😁😁 

Kids Learn Things You Least Expect

I was wondering what made glowingal display every titbit from each corner of the house so artistically and I admit, quite beautifully !!!!

Now I found the answer…

Her inquisitive eyes speak it all…😍😍

Necessary… Cute… Evil.

Kids are a necessary evil.  If you don’t have them your life is empty; if you have them, you feel blessed but are definitely going to feel short of space soon ;).  

Bringing up children is more of a challenge than blessing, especially when your little one goes to school. Mother has to start school all over again and with a totally different perspective. My journey has just begun but I am all set. I belong to that breed of moms who are all armoured for every kind of situation; who don’t fear facing challenges! Win or loss…doesn’t matter.

Folks, my experiments with motherhood are going well. I am often showered with plenty of delightful moments fortified with unforeseen surprises (as bonus), and it seems unfair if I don’t share them with you.

My ‘GlowinGal’ is a piece in millions (I know every parent thinks the same 😉 ). She lives on extremes, sometimes behaving so sensible, leaving me aghast, and at times, she doesn’t miss any chance to make my blood boil; she keeps me on my toes. BUT I want to admit, my life incredibly INTERESTING and way too EXCITING, because of her ! 🙂

I am not a huge sports fan but last month when the entire world was hoping and fighting for medals in RIO, I too occasionally froze in front of the TV. Seeing the enthusiasm and the sportsmanship of the participants, I thought we should also try and focus on one sport for our daughter. Who knows, One day she might win a Medal for our country! 😉 (I just thought…remember.), and the thought passed with a new task waiting in the list.

Yesterday, when I came back home, she cheerfully welcomed me glowing golden with a Medal around her neck. I was like, “what is this for?”

“Ma, I got first position in Summer Holiday Homework!” She chirped.

“Really!” (I thought, I wasn’t as good as the other mothers. Have I outperformed them?)

I guess YES, and here is the proof. 😉

Enough kidding! I am in competition with no one. I just want to be good enough. Her little achievements make me more confident every-time, and I feel like going a step further…But I also know that I am a human and possibly not a PERFECT one.

But I am doing great and I am happy with that! 🙂

 

My Sunshine, My Rain, My Mom

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Mother is the most precious gift given to us by Almighty God.

A relation─so pure; so unselfish, and look at us! We hardly realise her true worth! The more ‘intellectual’ we become, the more we take her for granted. When was the last time that you hold your mother’s hand, looked straight in her eyes and asked, “How are you Ma?” I know she is yearning for this very little gesture from your side but I also know that you don’t have time for such a thing. You are always full of excuses, “Oh this is just show off. I love her and she knows it.” I agree she knows but doesn’t she deserve to be reassured that you acknowledge the selfless love that she showered on you all her life, more when you were voiceless and helpless?

In the past, I myself have many times said it to my mom, “You won’t understand Ma!” and now I understand that ‘look of her’ in the reaction. Yes, now I understand, because I am a mother. Motherhood has made me understand many things to which I never paid heed ever. I understand now why my Mom always smiled when my eyes met hers. Why she used to panic whenever I complained of recurring headaches in childhood. She would use myriad methods to heal her ailing daughter. She is a strong believer in things beyond science, and amazingly her logic always proved right.

I understand now why she walked beside papa−to make every effort to make our life comfortable. I understand why she scolded me at places− so that I learn to differentiate right from wrong. I also understand why she overlooked many of my silly mistakes − to save me from the fury of others.

Did she ever think of getting her share of love in return?

I don’t know but from my own little experience as mother, all I have learned is that a mother goes through a lot for her children, and she does everything not due to some ‘motive’ but purely out of love. Its not-at-all justified if we just forget to tell her that we are not even thankful to have her.

Miles apart, I miss that sleeping by mommy’s side especially on a sunny winter afternoon; it felt like the safest place in the world. Now I am grown up and busy in my own struggles of life.

It is sad that a girl is supposed to leave her house and the relations which gave meaning to her life, but should physical distance be a barrier for returning love to a mother whose love has shaped our lives?

 Let’s make our beautiful mothers feel special and tell them that they are precious and irreplaceable…No matter what!

We Are Friends For…I don’t know how long! But If You Stay, I’ll Say… Forever !

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Friends are the siblings born to different parents, I have heard!

Last evening while roaming on the terrace, and alongside watching my daughter (soon-to-be-four) play with a boy from neighbourhood, I had to face an amusing situation. They were playing with toy cars, talking, giggling, rolling on the floor, and having great time. Suddenly my ‘GlowinGal’ took a pause, and came running to me, “Ma…Ma, I want to marry Namit?”

I was not expecting it, so, avoiding an exaggeration, I said, “Okay”. And off see went.

After that, leaving all the toys aside, the two started assembling wooden pieces and piling them up in some pattern known only to them.

“What’s going on kids?” I got curious.

“We are making home!” they responded without looking.

“Ahaan!” And before I could say anything else, GlowinGal started dancing.

“Now what’s it with you?” I got amazed.

“Aren’t we supposed to dance in our marriage”, she said in-between the moves.

(Well, I just heard that she wanted to marry this friend of her but she wanted it this soon, I had no idea 😉 !). I let her.

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And it’s funny that she forgot about it…completely, the very next day…He again was just a friend ;).

Next day, we were having mother-daughter conversation, “Darling, whom do you sit with in your Nursery class?”

“Rudra!” She said with a sparkle in her eyes.

I continued, “And who’s your best friend?”

“It’s Rudra Ma!”

Not for once did she mention the name of the boy she was planning to get married the previous evening. It’s a good thing that kids have a short memory otherwise by the time they actually become adults, they would be married, like zillion times ;).

“Rudra is a boy No! Don’t you have any girl-friend?” (I meant, girl as a friend)

“No!” She said in a low tone.

“Why?” I got worried. “What about Navya? Isn’t she a friend?”  

“But she sits with Athrava,” She said looking up.

“So?” (I was trying to have a conversation here 😉 )

“She’s his girl-friend Ma!” She revealed.

“Oh, so does that mean, you are Rudra’s girlfriend?”

“Yes and He’s my boyfriend Mamma!”

I was speechless but could not stop laughing :). (You might be so sure my little sweetheart but I am not sure about it!)

{It’s amazing how innocent childhood is! Kids don’t know what relations are all about.  I bet at some point of our life even we have thought of many stupid things. As a kid, many of us wished to marry our papa , isn’t it? Anyways, no one takes kids seriously, may be that’s why adults keep saying ‘No Kidding’!}

Seriously, I am not kidding now. we all meet countless people in life, a few of them become are friends and very few of them manage to stay till the end. Some are just fillers, so lost in the oblivion; those close-to-hearts always stay in memories and some special ones keep making our days brighter every now and then.

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Let’s Cherish the ones who are still there.

To my friends: I am glad I met you. Happy Friendship Day folks!

Keep smiling :).

Mann

 

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