Temper is a pompous ‘driver’; it can take you to bizarre rides on unseen routes and admit it, we all have our moments. Temper alone is capable of making or breaking anything. However, if you know how to control your temper, you can definitely come out of whatever turmoil you are facing, that too unaffected. But that doesn’t hold true for everyone. There are some haughty people who believe they own entire world and there are some generous people who silently bear the temper moments of others, without a groan.
Sometimes too much forbearance is taken as your weakness and not strength; and people start manipulating you. There comes a day, when you have to decide the perimeter of your forbearance and show them your silence is not because of your weakness and dependency but because you know the fact that temper can be handled if one desires.
True, we live in a real world and there are people who always stand on the other side of complaint counter; they have a problem with everyone and everything around. They constantly feel as if each one is after them and is always trying to bring them down. They often fall prey to temper fluctuation.
Result; Such people neither make anyone else happy nor stay happy themselves. They carry some sort of gloominess with them all the time. When they enter some conversation, they emit detrimental vibrations. Faces of such people seem to be matured before age; their eyebrows are always stiff and they tend to have a characteristic sarcasm in their words. They show as if the entire world is moving just because of them; always boast of their unmatched credentials and how people mistreat them?
You hardly see them smiling or laughing and if they ever do…it is always over the top. It doesn’t look natural, from inside!
I am forced to think, “What is their actual problem?”
Here I made a hypothesis: People say money is everything. In my opinion, money can be anything but everything. You can roughly measure success with how much money one has earned but failure in life can never be calculated in terms of money because it is more than that. There are many things beyond the reach of ‘money’; satisfaction is one. If a person making good money doesn’t count it success and still feels miserable and hurt; how do you explain it?
Personally what I feel is that their own success or failure doesn’t affect people as much as the success of others and if these ‘others’ include someone younger; nearer and less capable, it fury them most. The malicious feelings keep accumulating in their mind over time. When incompetent to hold any more, they start puking anywhere, on anyone.
My suggestion: Don’t be a football to other people’s opinion and stop being a bloody victim; once is tolerable but if same thing keep repeating over and over again; it will be considered over generosity on your part. Realize that time for remuneration has come. You have to give them back some of it; show them you are not into slavery or something and prove that you can practice your right (freedom to speech).
If you have wronged them somehow, stop right there but if you know you are right, there is no point in being a dustbin where anyone comes and dumps trash. At most what awful is going to happen; the person will stop talking to you; make faces and awkward gestures in front of you; what else? Nothing much, this should not affect your health.
Remember, you are a unique creation of GOD. People can try to imitate but “No one can be you”. You are totally worthy of everything that you have achieved.
Stop feeling bad for such ‘weirdoes’ and move on with your life. There are many more important things to do in life. Don’t waste time, thinking about their odd behaviour or have intentions to correct it. Leave them alone. That’s the best thing you can do…Trust me.
You talk about women empowerment all the time but are you ACTUALLY prepared to accommodate women ‘with power’? Well, my answer is… Not really.
Since time immemorial, you have considered woman “an icon” of selfless love, care, silence, sacrifice and forbearance. You still want to see her the same. She has been gifted with countless virtues by Nature; and has, herself, acquired many. She has mastered multitasking and possesses great managerial skills making her a fine group member as well as an excellent leader.
You say she is weak ‘emotionally’ but in my opinion, that is the very basis of her enormous strength. You say she is weak ‘physically’ then I say physical strength is just a matter of will; want it? Attain it.
Do you acknowledge and appreciate a woman’s capabilities? No, you don’t. You are always sceptical.
Undeniably, you have enjoyed a dominant position in the family and society since ages and may be that’s why, today you are finding it difficult to leave your luxurious niche.You might be trying but one thing is sure; you are not yet prepared to follow the commands from her as a ‘Head’. Because what little I observe, tells a different story.
I witness you turning irate on being asked for reasons by HER. I see you nodding in face and bitching behind. I see you doubting her capabilities to be a head. I see you comparing her to your so-called ‘ideal head’ (a man). I see you criticize her for being comparatively more considerate of her family. I see you disrespecting her suggestions and gestures. I see you making fun of her for trusting other women. I see you getting frustrated because she questions your work. In short I see you in complete disagreement with HER.
And you talk about what… Women empowerment!
Forget empowering HER; first go, get your attitude right. Come out of this age-old notion of considering women ‘trivial’. Remember woman is capable of everything; Are YOU?
You better raise your guards. Either walk along or watch her move ahead because, SHE indeed… is moving fast.