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Kitty Party: It’s Makeover Time!

When I was small, the very word ‘Kitty Party’ would immediately bring in to mind a picture of rich fat ladies, trying hard to show their pricey possessions and dying to see their peers turning green with envy. It only meant an exaggerated exhibition of family’s bank balance in the terms of exotic holidays, posh cars, expensive apparels, bling bling, and lengthy scuttlebutt sessions. Hence, ‘not-so-braggy’ people like me always kept distance from this hopeless extravaganza, until now!

Yes! I began my year 2016 with an endeavour of joining hands with other ladies, (some quite like and others quite unlike), coming from diverse arenas and believe me, my perspective has totally changed after a few meetings. Though, Women will be women always but ‘Kitty party’ can be way more constructive; it can be a platform for multiple actions and I have come up with a plan for females, whether urban or rural!

We know males have enjoyed the prominent and important role in making every decision for her, for quite long. A female is taken as the weaker sex due to her physicality but if she form groups, the ‘Union is strength’ becomes obvious and she can enjoy many aspects of life which remain unexplored due to many imposed restrictions and traditions. In short Kitty group or it’s any variant should not be a monopoly of middle aged women but young gals can also reap benefits from it. Win-win situation!

Are you the kind of woman who spent a better part of your life doing cooking and laundry for your husband and kids? Are your children grown-up enough to ask favours from you? Do you spend much of your time repenting and blaming? Do you think you are falling short of friends and acquaintances? Do you think, everyone in your family is busy in their own lives and no one has time for you?

Well the solution is lying may be next door or street. There are countless such souls. Get out and explore. Meet up with ladies and form a group and you are no more… lonely! :).

Are you an entrepreneur?

Starting something new is a big step towards progress but all planning can go to waste if it lacks proper advertisement. I know there are countless methods for promotion these days but what I believe-mouth publicity is still the best and trusted one when it comes to ladies. And you know local consumers are the first and obvious targets in any business. So what are you waiting for look for some energetic interesting ladies in the neighbourhood and shoot….


Do you belong to that breed of females who always wish for a life full of fun and excitement and luckily have some time in your possession? My advice instead of spending hours in front of TV or sleeping, dress-up in your favourite wear and head outdoors. You can enjoy a total girl’s talk, play games, share recipes or participate in various activities and show your artistic side nobody has ever noticed or appreciated before. Give yourself a chance to be creative and come out with numerous life changing ideas and gestures.

Falling short of Money?

You have been saving for months to buy that expensive piece of jewellery or that exotic sofa or anything, asking for a big sum but in-spite of many efforts, you couldn’t get it.(May be it’s already sold or you see another more lucrative design on the side display or you spent the money somewhere else.) Whatever the reason, if you want some amount immediately, Here is the answer! Money pooling and lucky draw is an integral part of a Kitty party. Of course you need luck to be on your side but sometimes a little understanding and an adjustment also do the trick.

Are you socially secluded?

With a jam-packed schedule 24*7, it’s not possible for most of us to socialize. Am I wrong? I know there are social networking sites for our rescue but dear, we need some ‘real’ people around us who listen to us when we need to be heard, who talks to us when we feel speechless, who understand us when the opposite gender fails to do so and above all who can cheer us up with real life demonstrations. When you volunteer for joining such group, you are going to meet people with myriad colours, tastes and habits. You learn a lot about life and yourself. And if you are new to the area, they help you discover best places to eat, shop and stroll. Bonus- you end up having a whole new bunch of friends-the real ones! 🙂

Are you too much dependent on others?

A females is often guided and protected by males of her family, initially it’s the father, then comes the brother, followed by the husband after marriage and son during the dusk of life. No matter what, they are going to raise their eyebrows if you end up doing something on your own; that’s not the set way, you know.

Well my answer is- grow up girls. Take command of your own life and start with a whole girl gang in your locality. Once you get out of the set perimeter, nobody can stop you from touching new horizons. Plan big things in your group-Go mountaineering or do sun bathing on nude beaches or get lost in the mysterious tropical rain forests or evaporate your body fluids in scorching heat of deserts. Do anything that makes you feel free and contended.

Explore this freshly unfolded world, limitlessly…. And…TOGETHER. 🙂


Mind Your Temper


Temper is a pompous ‘driver’; it can take you to bizarre rides on unseen routes and admit it, we all have our moments. Temper alone is capable of making or breaking anything. However, if you know how to control your temper, you can definitely come out of whatever turmoil you are facing, that too unaffected. But that doesn’t hold true for everyone. There are some haughty people who believe they own entire world and there are some generous people who silently bear the temper moments of others, without a groan.

Sometimes too much forbearance is taken as your weakness and not strength; and people start manipulating you. There comes a day, when you have to decide the perimeter of your forbearance and show them your silence is not because of your weakness and dependency but because you know the fact that temper can be handled if one desires.


True, we live in a real world and there are people who always stand on the other side of complaint counter; they have a problem with everyone and everything around. They constantly feel as if each one is after them and is always trying to bring them down. They often fall prey to temper fluctuation.

Result; Such people neither make anyone else happy nor stay happy themselves. They carry some sort of gloominess with them all the time. When they enter some conversation, they emit detrimental vibrations. Faces of such people seem to be matured before age; their eyebrows are always stiff and they tend to have a characteristic sarcasm in their words. They show as if the entire world is moving just because of them; always boast of their unmatched credentials and how people mistreat them?

You hardly see them smiling or laughing and if they ever do…it is always over the top. It doesn’t look natural, from inside!

I am forced to think, “What is their actual problem?”

Here I made a hypothesis: People say money is everything. In my opinion, money can be anything but everything. You can roughly measure success with how much money one has earned but failure in life can never be calculated in terms of money because it is more than that. There are many things beyond the reach of ‘money’; satisfaction is one. If a person making good money doesn’t count it success and still feels miserable and hurt; how do you explain it?

Book of Bad Habits-Temper

Personally what I feel is that their own success or failure doesn’t affect people as much as the success of others and if these ‘others’ include someone younger; nearer and less capable, it fury them most. The malicious feelings keep accumulating in their mind over time. When incompetent to hold any more, they start puking anywhere, on anyone.

My suggestion: Don’t be a football to other people’s opinion and stop being a bloody victim; once is tolerable but if same thing keep repeating over and over again; it will be considered over generosity on your part.  Realize that time for remuneration has come. You have to give them back some of it; show them you are not into slavery or something and prove that you can practice your right (freedom to speech).

If you have wronged them somehow, stop right there but if you know you are right, there is no point in being a dustbin where anyone comes and dumps trash. At most what awful is going to happen; the person will stop talking to you; make faces and awkward gestures in front of you; what else? Nothing much, this should not affect your health.


Remember, you are a unique creation of GOD. People can try to imitate but “No one can be you”. You are totally worthy of everything that you have achieved.

Stop feeling bad for such weirdoes’ and move on with your life. There are many more important things to do in life. Don’t waste time, thinking about their odd behaviour or have intentions to correct it. Leave them alone. That’s the best thing you can do…Trust me.

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